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Should parenting be taught by the government?


This article really got my gears turning. I think it would be a great discussion over coffee or hot chocolate, in my case.

I’m a firm believer that poor parenting is the major cause of many if not most of the problems in our society today. Whether parents are bad role models, they don’t care, they don’t set and enforce rules, or they spoil their children, better parenting would lead to better performance in schools, lower crime rates, and higher fiscal responsibility. If fewer people had credit card debt, there were fewer people in jail, and students did their homework, just think about how much better society would be.

I feel like I am blessed to have good parents. Wait a minute, let me correct that, GREAT parents. Am I perfect? Of course not, but I know they are a large reason why I am who I am. I believe they could raise any child to be a productive citizen in our society.

That doesn’t mean there’s a secret formula or some magic pill to great parenting. I’m sure my siblings and myself were all raised differently. The variables in raising children are constantly changing. The fact that I had no older siblings would make things different for me. Technology changes things. Society changes things. I’m still confident that they figured it out and made great parents regardless of the situation.

How did they know how? It sure wasn’t through some government subsidized class. As good as these intentions may be, somebody is a little too idealistic. The government has enough trouble running itself. And now they want to get into individual homes and try to run those? I can just imagine the expensive bureaucracy that would be created in such an endeavor. Besides the fact that it’s a complete invasion of our rights as people, it would just mean more wasted money and time.

And Chuck Norris is right. There are just as many rich parents who need help with parenting as there are poor ones. While there are many problems with low income neighborhoods, there are plenty of rich people who don’t know how to truly care for their children. Buying them stuff to make them happy is not the answer.

I can see it now.  “Parenting Police”  They walk through the mall, see an instance of poor parenting, and slap cuffs on the parents or write them a ticket.  Or they go door to door doing random inspections of parenting methods.  While better parenting would make things much better, I don’t think this is the solution.  The best experts on parenting are parents themselves. You don’t need a PhD in psychology to be a good parent.  How many parents want to admit that they aren’t good parents?  That would an interesting statistic. What if a parent thinks they are doing a great job?  Regardless of what anyone else thinks, should they be subject to the “Parenting Police”?

I don’t usually get caught up in political agendas and discussions.  They are fun to discuss but I’m not about to lose any sleep. I just found this one a little interesting. Feel free to make your own drop in the bucket….

August 11, 2009 at 9:47 PM
  • October 20, 2009 at 5:51 PMJesa

    It’s when you realize you aren’t working with the child, but against them, or just to shut them up, you have a problem. A spoiled child is just a rich child who considers a night of idiotic drinking= a mild reprimand .Does that= as bad as a mother with no income, who has to bail her kids out who tried to steal to pay the gas bill? Or wants cool new shoes to keep up?Let’s instill what important. Love. And the ability to know right from wrong. How? Food is far more important than clothes.A beginning.

  • November 19, 2009 at 12:04 AMJeremiah

    As the family is, so shall a nation be.

  • March 7, 2010 at 8:39 PMDickran Parunak

    What is love? There are different types and different definitions. Regardless of the definition, love is an inclusion of other intangibles. It must involve respect, discipline, and trust just to name a few. A child who doesn’t respect their parents will have a difficult time respecting themselves. A child who cannot trust their parents will have a hard time trusting anyone else. A child who doesn’t know discipline will crave it yet won’t know what to do with it when presented with it. If they are never in an environment that requires discipline, they will have a difficult following through on any goals or dreams that their natural talents provide to them. Yes, let’s love, but even more, let’s teach love. Let’s help others learn what the recipe is for love.

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